Expectations

Since I had myself a little pity party the other day, I now need to clarify some things. My husband came home yesterday, and read this post. He wasn't too happy that I posted this for the world to see, and I think it hurt him. He felt like I was out there to bash him, and that was totally not the purpose. I was just disappointed, and needed to vent.

My husband is a wonderful person. He works very hard to provide for me and our family. He loves us very much. He does the best that he can to show love for me. I know that he loves me and appreciates me. I love him, and care for him deeply. What it all comes down to is expectations. My friend over at Miss Niss, said it perfectly "when we expect things of other people, we, the "expecters" are the ones who usually get hurt by it...." That is exactly what happened on Sunday. I had in my mind how I would have done things, and when it didn't happen that way I was hurt. To my husbands defense...he said that he did wish me 'Happy Mother's Day.' Maybe I was so caught up in what didn't happen that I didn't hear him say it. He did take Caden to church with him a whole hour early, and did the best that he could to show his appreciation that day. I know that he can't read my mind, and he does and shows his love differently than I do. That is something that I have to remind myself.

Honey, I am sorry...I didn't mean to "bash" you. I love you, and am grateful to have you in my life.

Mother's Day

From what I have read in the blogosphere, it sound's like everyone had a wonderful Mother's Day. I have to say that I am jealous of this...I might just have to convince our Relief Society that this is the way things should be done!

My Mother's day started out early. The kids woke up, and came in bed with us. We went downstairs and ate some cereal. Then pretty much took it easy. Close to 9 we put Sydney down for a nap (she had been up since 5:30 am) and I tried to get a little more sleep. I think I was able to get about a half hour before Shawn left to go to the church. He took Caden with him at 10 am.

I got up, got ready...then got the kids stuff together. Finally I woke up Sydney, and got her dressed and headed off to church. When I arrived, Caden was crying. He was in the worst mood...which made Sacrament meeting wonderful. I think I spent the first part out in the foyer with a screaming child. I finally got him to settle down, and we went back inside the chapel. The primary kids were supposed to sing to all the mothers. Caden made it as far as the stairs and then just sat there. When they started singing he ran back to me crying. Oh the Joys.

Atleast I got to drop them off at nursery and primary for the last two hours of church, and have a little break. Relief Society was good. The lesson was on forgiveness...something I need to be better at. I was excited when church got out because I figured that the kids teachers would have had the kids make me something. I did get a card that Sydney had scribbled on, but that was it.

I was a little disappointed that they didn't have Caden do anything, but I guess that really isn't their job. Shawn had to do tithing so we came home and I put Sydney down for a nap. In the meantime, I had to cut up fruit for the fruit salad that I had to bring to the family dinner that my family was having at my brothers house.

I had made some cards for my mom, Shawn's mom, and Shawn's grandma. We made a trip over to Grandma's, and Shawn's mom was there too. So we were able to give them both the cards, and visit for a while. While we were there alot of the extended family showed up, it was nice to see everyone. Pretty soon we had to leave to head over to my brothers. We were already an hour late, but it was nice to see everyone.

Sunday was also my nephew, Ethan's, first birthday. I still can't believe that he is one. So our get together was for Mother's day, and also to celebrate for Ethan. It was good to see my family. I always love getting together with them. I could hang out with them for hours.

My mom was nice enough to give me a card. I thought it was very thoughtful of her. I love my mom. She is a wonderful person. There are times that I get frustrated with her, and sometimes say hurtful things. I know I am going to regret it someday. I will probably have a child that will do the same to me. I just hope that she knows that I really do love her despite our differences.

That was pretty much my day. Nothing really special. My husband didn't even tell me "Happy Mother's Day." I don' t think that he did it on purpose, he just has had alot on his mind lately. I haven't been able to post anything about it because people from his work sometimes read my blog, but he left his current position for a new company (he actually started the new job today). I will have to post more on this later. I think it is a good thing, but Shawn really did love his old job.

Anyway, maybe next year will be more memorable.